Saying goodbye. (4 Viewers)

[SigFreudianSlip]

Damn, I'm sorry to hear this, but glad for your serenity. You've dropped hints in the past regarding your declining health, but I didn't know it was this bad. Peace and Blessings to you on your Journey, and may you find a beautiful rebirth in whatever lies beyond.

It is said that we pick this earthly journey while we're still in the spirit world. We make this choice knowing full well all the triumphs and tragedies we'll face. As we begin to depart the spirit realm for the earthly realm, the Angel presses its finger to our lips as whispers "shhhh" and this is why we have the divot under our nose

Being in Spirit is easy, life is hard. We are here until we've learned what we need to learn and taught what we need to teach. Once these things are complete it is the end of our time,

Hospice is a wonderful option for those at this stage. Tell them you want the best stuff. Peace to you, my Brother.

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.

--Mary Elizabeth Frye

Wow. That poem is beautiful. As were your words and I thank you.

I’m thankful not only for Hospice when the time comes, I’m also thankful that my best friend and ex fiancée is an RN who just switched from running a hospital to Hospice. 16 years at the hospital burned her out...anyhow she has the biggest heart in the world (truth) and will be taking me on my journey. As an aside just thought about it and out of my 4 relationships in my life 3 are RN’s. Hmmmmm. Lol. I digress....thanks again Terps.

 

[SoggyBottomBoy]

Hump, you'll be missed, friend. You are handling this in a way I don't think I could. I admire that.

It also hurts to hear that you don't have much of a support group. I hope this community gives you some comfort that you truly deserve.

Love ya, Bro.

 

[SigFreudianSlip]

I can't be there physically, but I'll be there in spirit. Cool thing to do for a fellow who dat.

Joshua,

I should be sleeping, but for some reason was drawn to this thread. So many good sentiments here. Anything I add will be pretty much touching on what others have said already.

I appreciate your grace and willingness to share your struggles through your health issues. Through it all, you have your faith and hope. I'm happy to see that your character, honesty and generosity continues in the face of this terminal illness.

I wish we could have met in person. I don't think this world is the end and that we'll meet in the future somehow. I've lost family members before and seen people die, and it's certainly traumatic for anyone. But I think the trauma is less about death and more about losing someone meaningful in our lives. But living our days and making the most of the time we have with no regrets makes life a far more manageable affair. I know I want to do better and do more because people like you remind me of that.

Prayers for your brother. I'll miss your humor. Especially about the going blind part. I've had a severe hearing loss all of my life, and it's not all bad. When I used to get tired of my friends bugging me or my boss berating me, I'd just hit the ignore button and turn off my hearing aids.

Hang on as long as you can, and if there is anything at all our community of who dats here can assist you with, please let us know.

Grace and blessings,

Dave

Thank you much Dave. Have loved seeing your takes over the years. Ty also for the prayers. I believe strongly in them.

Too funny on the hearing aids and that’s exactly how I’ve tried to address and handle my disability. Somehow find the silver lining, ya know? And always knowing I may not have shoes but many have no feet.
God Bless you Dave.
Joshua

 

[SigFreudianSlip]

Hump, you'll be missed, friend. You are handling this in a way I don't think I could. I admire that.

It also hurts to hear that you don't have much of a support group. I hope this community gives you some comfort that you truly deserve.

Love ya, Bro.

Thanks Soggy. I’m gonna miss your humor man. And I had a wonderful support group, I understand that they are hurting seeing my health fade...and they can’t fix it which makes them sad and angry. I am lonely but I do not blame them at all. This has given me a new perspective on life, and death and the plethora of emotions it entails. We all handle it differently.

Love you too brother.

 

[saintmdterps]

Wow. That poem is beautiful. As were your words and I thank you.

I’m thankful not only for Hospice when the time comes, I’m also thankful that my best friend and ex fiancée is an RN who just switched from running a hospital to Hospice. 16 years at the hospital burned her out...anyhow she has the biggest heart in the world (truth) and will be taking me on my journey. As an aside just thought about it and out of my 4 relationships in my life 3 are RN’s. Hmmmmm. Lol. I digress....thanks again Terps.

Haha I dated quite a few teachers and nurses, both of which have a high percentage of loony, but they'd likely say the same about me

Speaking of nutty professions, I'm an occupational therapist so if there's anything I can do to help, please let me know.

 

[SigFreudianSlip]

It’s been moving reading your story, Hump and although we didn’t interact I felt like I knew you. I hope when my time comes I can face it with at least half the grace and dignity as you. As Jackie Robinson said, “A life is not important except in the impact it has on other lives.” and as all these posts in this thread can attest you’ve made a big impact on people far and wide. A life well lived.

I wish you continued peace and will pray for you. Take care.

-Joe

Ty Joe. Very much. Love the Jackie quote. A man I admired very much.

Joshua

 

[SigFreudianSlip]

Ty to all, very much. I’ve tried to respond to everyone as y’all took the time to write to me, which means a lot. If I missed any I apologize...I am One Eyed Willy ya know.

Man, just had a crushing thought.....no SR in the afterlife. NowTHAT sucks. ?

 

[SigFreudianSlip]

Haha I dated quite a few teachers and nurses, both of which have a high percentage of loony, but they'd likely say the same about me

Speaking of nutty professions, I'm an occupational therapist so if there's anything I can do to help, please let me know.

Lolol. I know what you mean. My Dad taught for 34 years, I taught and subbed for a couple of years as well. And I’m def loony, a teacher’s lounge will show you so much you’d have never
thought about. ??

And thank you for that, as my spine is deteriorating daily I wish I could have some help there haha. Herniated discs all the way down, marked stenosis, narrowing, and marked spondylosis. Too funny that is the least of my worries physically. ?

 

[*KamaraG!rl*]

Oh, no! ? Totally wasn't expecting to read this. Awful! I just don't understand life.

 

[Bill]

Josh,
I'm glad that you think of everyone here as your family. I just hope that you don't mind us hanging around with you right here.
I hope that we're not to tough to deal with like some families can be. Just let us know if you need your space. We're here for you.

 

[SigFreudianSlip]

Oh, no! ? Totally wasn't expecting to read this. Awful! I just don't understand life.

It’s all good KamaraGirl. Gonna miss you, love your POV over the years. Many have it worse than me. I’ve lived and loved and man what a ride. Hope to go out with that Lombardi.

Off topic, how far is Carson from La Jolla? I grew up in Vegas and we always vacationed in San Diego and or La Jolla. I don’t remember Carson.?.?

 

[SigFreudianSlip]

Josh,
I'm glad that you think of everyone here as your family. I just hope that you don't mind us hanging around with you right here.
I hope that we're not to tough to deal with like some families can be. Just let us know if you need your space. We're here for you.

I def am thankful and yes I do and always have thought of y’all as my family.

As I said in another post responding to Bo, I did weigh opening up last year when it all started (my post count was like 2,000 in 22 years until sick lol) but I truly have been lonely and I’m not used to being almost exclusively bed ridden, so time on my hands ya know? Also seeing friends pass away over the years and someone would tell us...I don’t have that. So I just decided to go ahead and do it myself. I do not mean to come across as narcissistic or attention seeking...I know full well we all have problems. I thank you all for being here for me. If I don’t get to my ex fiancée and her hospice then I’ll still not have gone alone as I have y’all.

 

[*KamaraG!rl*]

It’s all good KamaraGirl. Gonna miss you, love your POV over the years. Many have it worse than me. I’ve lived and loved and man what a ride. Hope to go out with that Lombardi.

Off topic, how far is Carson from La Jolla? I grew up in Vegas and we always vacationed in San Diego and or La Jolla. I don’t remember Carson.?.?

Carson is about a 3 hour drive from La Jolla. Chargers currently play here. It's really kind of a crap place.

Given your situation, I actually feel bad for complaining about anything.

 

[BobE]

Man I so wish I could have had some beers with you.

Oddly enough my Alcoholic counselor told me this exact same thing today. Still not sure how to take that from him.

 

[SigFreudianSlip]

Carson is about a 3 hour drive from La Jolla. Chargers currently play here. It's really kind of a crap place.

Given your situation, I actually feel bad for complaining about anything.

Ahhhh. Gotcha. And no worries, we all have problems. I’m at peace. Gonna enjoy what I have left. ?
Who Dat KG.