Serious relationships..... (1 Viewer)

[Booker]

I think you’re arguing to argue- but I’m cool with that
Finding/ growing in attraction is a process
We usually start with the visuals, then to aspects of personality - you don’t get the whole package on first date, you discover things over time and/or things shift and people change and attractions alter

A lot of truth here. I think everyone has experienced finding someone more attractive as you find out more about them, or finding someone you initially found attractive to become less and less so the more they open their mouth.

 

[zeetes]

so one of my grandmother's neighbours, i had a chance with her. hot as fork, tall, blonde, beautiful. i went to a few dances at chappelle with her. never picked up on any of the hints, and i was obsessed with her.

she ended up marrying some douche with a gold camry. she gave me so many hints too. it has taken me years to realize.

i don't regret it though. without my stupidity, i never would have met my wife, who is 10000000x better.

 

[Tapxe]

so one of my grandmother's neighbours, i had a chance with her. hot as fork, tall, blonde, beautiful. i went to a few dances at chappelle with her. never picked up on any of the hints, and i was obsessed with her.

she ended up marrying some douche with a gold camry. she gave me so many hints too. it has taken me years to realize.

i don't regret it though. without my stupidity, i never would have met my wife, who is 10000000x better.

I know what you mean. I brought two girls to a concert back in the 80's and had connections that got us back stage passes. I didn't pick up the hints until back at the apt when they were taking off my pants.

 

[zeetes]

I know what you mean. I brought two girls to a concert back in the 80's and had connections that got us back stage passes. I didn't pick up the hints until back at the apt when they were taking off my pants.

dude. i was so naive. it took years to realize.

 

[FL_Saint]

A couple that seemed serious at the time. But hindsight shows me they really weren’t. So, really only one serious relationship - 23 years, married for 21 next month.

 

[Loose Cannon]

Three for me.
- First serious relationship, she wanted marriage and kids, I wasn't near ready.
- My wife
- OP's mom.

 

[Dago]

Well at the time it wasn’t a game bc I had no idea I felt that way until right before I went to see her - hasn’t been an issue since, since I’ve pretty much been surrounded by very talented people
But I do think it’s part of the ‘attractiveness’ package
It’s similar to CCS finding her bf wasn’t very bright - I know intelligence has always been important to me
Like imagine you’ve been dating someone for a few months and all of a sudden you find she’s a **** to old people or thinks “we built this city on rock n roll’ is a great song or something

Dated this really good looking girl and it turned out she was flat out dumb. I just couldnt deal with it
I know that sounds horrible, but after awhile just trying to have a conversation with her made me want to put a bullet in my head

 

[Madmarsha]

I just realized that if I ever hire a relationship counselor, that their ability to communicate in English is going to be my top selection criteria.

We just gotta hold on two more weeks.

 

[Zack Lee]

We just gotta hold on two more weeks.

two more? I work Mardi Gras. Don’t you put that on me. It’s one more week.

 

[Goatman Saint]

I’ve had 3 depending how you look at things. First was my first girlfriend. It was as serious as a high school relationship could be. She taught me everything about relationships. How to be loyal (she wasn’t), how to treat your partner (she slept around behind my back eventually getting pregnant by her adopted brother and blaming it on me), how to keep quiet and respectful about what your partner had to say ( she was a walking jabber jaws), and how important red flags are in a relationship ( flags the size of a matadors cape). But she was really hot and had an incredible skill set.

The other has been my wife of a million years. Best relationship one could ever hope for.

The third is somewhat depending on how you look at it. She started out as a girlfriend years ago for a short time. Then, we realized super quick we could never be a romantic relationship, even though we were great friends and cared massively for each other. so we became very close friends and though marriages, moves, kids, everything life can throw at you, she’s remained probably my best friend right after my wife. Outside of my family she’s one of 2 things I would never get rid of (the other being my 66 GTO.)