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I have a friend who other than narcotic use in the past is not a criminal. He is a 60ish man that comes from a local big money family but he has a gambling addiction and gambled away his inheritance. So in later life he has had to take to small time jobs, the most recent is driving for Lyft. About four months ago he won about 2000 in the casino and so he called this leech woman friend who is half his age and only comes around when he has money. He took the woman shopping at a local mall and he had about $900 dollars in merchandise paying at the register. Stuff for both him and her. They leave the department store and go get coffee when he remembers he meant to buy a tie. So as they are returning to the same store, a security guard stops them and asks to see in the bags. This women had slipped a bottle of perfume in one of the bags. I know my friend would not let her deal with her take the full heat. Long story short they were both written tickets.
When Lyft ran his name for their quarterly background checks, it came up and he was suspended. He has since barely survived paying rent, eating etc and has become suicidal. I am not the kind of person who will get involved with drama people who say that for attention. There is not much doubt in my mind that he is the type that might follow through. And it is also neither here nor there that not driving for Lyft may have very well saved his life. I can't reason that way with him. So I want to help. I suggested that he see if he can get a face to face with the manager of the store and explain his side without trying to defend or interpret the motives of his female friend. I know that he probably didn't do that.
so I am going to get him groceries today but I wanted to know what else I might do. Should I call the department store (he has his receipt thank God) There is no doubt in my mind that they way my friend is with money that if the department store had told him his items were twice as much he would have just handed it over without a second thought. Or should I get online and see if I can get a pro bono project involved. I just feel helpless for my friend and don't know how I can actually help.
When Lyft ran his name for their quarterly background checks, it came up and he was suspended. He has since barely survived paying rent, eating etc and has become suicidal. I am not the kind of person who will get involved with drama people who say that for attention. There is not much doubt in my mind that he is the type that might follow through. And it is also neither here nor there that not driving for Lyft may have very well saved his life. I can't reason that way with him. So I want to help. I suggested that he see if he can get a face to face with the manager of the store and explain his side without trying to defend or interpret the motives of his female friend. I know that he probably didn't do that.
so I am going to get him groceries today but I wanted to know what else I might do. Should I call the department store (he has his receipt thank God) There is no doubt in my mind that they way my friend is with money that if the department store had told him his items were twice as much he would have just handed it over without a second thought. Or should I get online and see if I can get a pro bono project involved. I just feel helpless for my friend and don't know how I can actually help.