Brenn..tough for me to say with you going in may..you will have to expect the usual traffic out front since it is a loft above a eatery..however this place isnt a wild saloon but they do have music at that time..nothing loaud thou..mellow/beach music.we were there in october when the red carpet is rolled up..the kids are in school and it's really nothing more than a blue-haired crowd...very peaceful
it's very ,very nice but i really do think it would be a bit too busy for you folks since you want alot of peace and serenity ..which is understandable.
me, i can swing the other way..with that bar being just a full staircase away my bride had to call down to the bartender to get me back upstaires. Food is great there and they have room service..but i think you would prefer a more secluded place..let me talk to my bride since she knows every knook and crannie there..maybe she can be of help..but a small cottage on the beach might be a problem for you since after april..people usually expect you to rent for a full week...
p.s.-orange beach is nice and you can't beat the rates..might want to check that out..