Da Gumbo Thread

I HATE okra, the taste, the smell, the slime. (Did I mention I hate okra?) But when Bum puts it in a gumbo, he cooks it down so it almost desintegrates. That's the only way I'll eat it. (And it actually gives a good flavor.) I think he cooks it in the roux, but I don't know for sure because I can't be anywhere nearby when it's cooking.