I think it’s the same either way. My kids are much closer to me rather than my wife. She grew up with both physical and verbal abuse, therefore has difficulties bringing that close personal love to a relationship even though she has done massive amounts to move beyond her upbringing. She has never abused our kids in any way, has been a great mom, but that closeness that I have she doesn’t. Anyway, I believe it goes both ways. Mom or dad.