You Just Broke Your Child. Congratulations.

What would happen if you didn’t?
Nothing really. But I don't know. I don't want him to feel bad. And for so many years, I did say it. I used to send gifts and everything. I know he doesn't understand how much he hurt me by putting me here. Impossible for him to know.

So then my dilemma becomes, 'Do you 'punish' someone for doing something they don't realize they did?'