Nothing really. But I don't know. I don't want him to feel bad. And for so many years, I did say it. I used to send gifts and everything. I know he doesn't understand how much he hurt me by putting me here. Impossible for him to know.
So then my dilemma becomes, 'Do you 'punish' someone for doing something they don't realize they did?'
I get that you're in a difficult frame of mind and I suspect that does affect how you see, not only your dad, but others around you. Sometimes our perspective affects our relationships.
I have my own issues and I tend not to want to burden my parents with those issues. Which is sometimes why I try to keep the holiday wishes simple.
Whatever happens, I wish you better days. Hang in there!