I lost mine in Jan of last year. In the months leading up to his death I did confront him on some stuff I had buried for so long. But there is a way to do it and just blowing emotionally may or may not be it. I don’t advocate therapy often but if you have been trying to do it alone and can’t figure your way out of it, don’t dis count treatment. And you don’t have to stick with the first person you talk to. There has to be chemistry