It's why I never aspired to marry earlier than 30. Now, somehow that became, I want to be marred [left in the typo] AT 30 (and I made it with 1 month to spare. I basically had an early 31st birthday trip on my honeymoon). But by that time, I had a career, had lived alone completely self sufficient, and -- though I didn't really WANT to -- knew that I could continue living alone versus feeling that I needed to live with an abuser.