This particular discussion is not about WHY someone may have ended up on their deathbed or grave. It is about how you treat them and their family at that point. It is that you should not berate them for their actions that may have led them to that point or tell them that they got what they deserve. It is that you should treat them and their family with dignity and respect. Again, the discussion is NOT about right or wrong decisions. It is about that moment, how you should respond to other hurting humans. It's about Grace and Mercy and not what we deserve based on our merits.