Im 35 years old and live with my 81 year old grandmother
I had my masters degree but I was between "career" jobs and working unloading trucks. I was ashamed, and the shame was paralyzing and self defeating.
Ultimately that shame was a big reason for breakdown of my relationship with the kids mother.
Ultimately I got my head out of my butt and got my career on track. It has not been perfect and things are still tight, but I can fully financially support two households in Seattle.
Look at what you have as an opportunity. Having family who can help the way your grandmother is helping you is sadly a rare thing today... and without family help the bottom is much further down, and the outlook for any sort of future is far bleaker.
You have a safety net that can allow you to better yourself and go on to a better life and future.
Dont be ashamed, be determined to make the most out of it.
Edit: Also it was a different time, but my parents had me, a bunch of debt, and multiple jobs but no career at 35. For the first year of my life they lived with my grandfather.
At 40 my mother graduated college and that same year my dad passed the CPA exam (with a history degree).
By 45 they had a house note, but their other debt was cleared and their careers were steadily growing. Still little to no retirement savings.
By 65 they both retired... with about 4 million in total assets, and have been joyously spending it traveling around the world for the past 10 years.
When I was 34 I was living with my parents. A few years earlier I had become the father of a then 4yr old. When we moved in with my parents they were 5, their mother was having serious medical problems, and my son was on his way.
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I feel like a loser. I have lived on my own before but got tired of renting so my grandma let me live with her so I can save money on a downpayment on a house. I'm not a freeloader I pay her 500 dollars a month for bills, and I help her out since she has Arthirtis in her hands. I know this is a temporary situation but i still feel like a complete loser. It would be one thing if I was 25 but I'm in my mid 30s no kids never been married and dont date becaose what woman would want to date a 35 year old man living with his grandmother. Be honest should I feel this way?
I had my masters degree but I was between "career" jobs and working unloading trucks. I was ashamed, and the shame was paralyzing and self defeating.
Ultimately that shame was a big reason for breakdown of my relationship with the kids mother.
Ultimately I got my head out of my butt and got my career on track. It has not been perfect and things are still tight, but I can fully financially support two households in Seattle.
Look at what you have as an opportunity. Having family who can help the way your grandmother is helping you is sadly a rare thing today... and without family help the bottom is much further down, and the outlook for any sort of future is far bleaker.
You have a safety net that can allow you to better yourself and go on to a better life and future.
Dont be ashamed, be determined to make the most out of it.
Edit: Also it was a different time, but my parents had me, a bunch of debt, and multiple jobs but no career at 35. For the first year of my life they lived with my grandfather.
At 40 my mother graduated college and that same year my dad passed the CPA exam (with a history degree).
By 45 they had a house note, but their other debt was cleared and their careers were steadily growing. Still little to no retirement savings.
By 65 they both retired... with about 4 million in total assets, and have been joyously spending it traveling around the world for the past 10 years.