Im 35 years old and live with my 81 year old grandmother

Yeah, one other thing that some others have indirectly said: try not to get hung up on timelines/what your peers are doing.

This country has done a great job of indoctrinating everyone to think that life is supposed to flow similarly for everyone. That after HS, you go to college, get a nice little 9-5 desk job, marry your college sweetheart, buy the white house with picket fence, get a golden retriever then have perfect babies that never cry or turn into teenagers that you can’t forkin’ stand, send them off to college, finally start living for you again, get arthritis, then become grandparents and devote your life to looking after the grandbrats, then die.

‘They’ have us believing this is the only acceptable way to live so it feels unnatural to go against that grain.

My timelines in life have never looked like those of my peers and I always feel like a misfit so I am always excited to meet people who don’t follow this ‘traditional’ path that most people take. And honestly, this cookie cutter life isn’t for everyone. It has driven millions of people to lead an unfulfilled life & unhappy for most of it.

Consider yourself fortunate that you get to have this opportunity to save money towards a long term investment & that you get to help your grandma. It’s lonely for the elders. My grandma is 92 & refuses to move into an assisted living apartment though she sorely needs it. Most of her siblings and friends have died. My aunts and uncle live 4 hours from her. My biological father lives nearby but she absolutely does not want him living there (I don’t blame her), I live out of state and my two girl cousins are college age and want nothing to do with taking care of her. She cant drive anymore so she’s very isolated & lonely.

Your parents/aunts/uncles are probably grateful someone is there to look after her.