Im 35 years old and live with my 81 year old grandmother

When I was 35, I had accepted I would never marry, have kids or even live on my own. 13 years later, I have been married for almost 12 years, have a 9 year-old daughter and have been a home owner for 5 years.

There are a ton of people who are living the same life you are and those of us that have been there before. As hard as it is, keep the faith - life often changes when you least expect it.
Me very similar except for the owning home part - I lived with my parents for a few months while in grad school/adjunct teaching and I’m the very opposite of a loser
You’re in Elite company OP