That was/is the hardest thing to figure out.
My parents always put on such a great façade of having it together and figured out.
It was only in my late 30's that I found out there was an affair, near divorce, arguments over how to raise me, near foreclosure, etc... I judged myself against the image my parents presented to me and where society said I should be in life... and I could not figure out how I could possibly be what I was "supposed" to be, figured I was just a hopeless fork up.