Im 35 years old and live with my 81 year old grandmother
This. Timelines are for things like "I will save x amount of money by x time." Having timelines related to things like relationships and kids seems like definitely a bad idea. But I guess if you're a woman and you want to birth your own kids there is a built in timeline.
Yeah. This is true. I’ve witnessed a lot of women I know start doing some really stupid & crazy shirt as they neared or passed 40 and had not yet had children.
I won’t go into details because I could write a trilogy but I’ll just say that the end result was usually one of two things - forcing a relationship quickly with someone they would have probably not gotten serious with if they weren’t rushing to have a kid - or - running through a ton of dakkk.
Sometimes I think about my life & wished that I had waited until I was more mature and financially stable to get married & have a child but when I see my peers doing this, I’m like “whew. Glad that’s not me at ~40 when we *should* know better.” Kinda judgy on my part, which I acknowledge.
I have a good friend who used to be part of my running group in Texas. He’s 52, a really nice guy with a great career, etc. He met his now wife through our mutual friend back in 2016. They got married last year. She just turned 38 in October 2021. He always wanted a family and at one point thought it may not happen for him, then he met her. She’s 100% his equal and despite their age difference, it was not any kind of weird gold digger/sugar daddy situation or getting together out of desperation/timelines on either end.
Anyway, their baby is due in July. Most of my guy friends would never want a baby at 52 but for him it’s something he always wanted and the universe provided him with a great partner that he could make it happen with.