New Car Help (with pole)

Car dealers are very good at separating you from your money....it's what they do. I would say you need to find 2 and work both of them.
A dealers #1 strategy is to wear you down and make you just say "ok" because you're tired of messing with it. I almost always have to get rude with them in order to leave. Remember there's going to be more cars come along....you don't HAVE to get the one right there in that moment.
My wife's car we just bought I used one dealer to get what I wanted from the other dealer. I was sitting at the desk texting the other one in front of the salesman. They wouldn't do what I wanted so we left. As we're getting in the car to leave the guy comes running out and says they'll do it. You have to be willing to leave and fight another day until you get exactly what you want.
You're not going to beat them but you can limit the hit you take. I hate hate hate car shopping.