I'm still convinced that he only went for one of two reasons...to please his father or for a bonding moment. I don't think he really wanted to go, but felt he "had" to go. In the end, it doesn't really matter. He went of his own free will. Sad story. And if his mom IS right, then she has to live with whatever feelings she has about it. She lost a husband and son. I don't know what would be going thru my mind if I were in her shoes.