Former NFL player Michael Oher claimed that he was never legally adopted

If someone raised me from a tough beginning, I’m not so sure that coming out now to taint your parent’s’ efforts is the best move overall.
See, here's the thing:
Adopted kids, whether or not formally adopted, have as much right as anyone else to have good treatment from their parents. I far too often hear, "Well, Kid X was taken advantage of in _____ way by his parents, but at least he's not still in ______; he should be grateful."