Anti Loneliness Club

Optimus Prime said

In the childhood friend thread, more than one person remarked how difficult tf was for adults to make new friends, especially men

First of all, any theories on why that is?

This club is an interesting idea, curious if it will take off and spread

But as someone said I can see it easily becoming a business networking group like BNI, or guys trying to pick up women "I know you're lonely"

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i mean there are probably a good many reasons
i know that my post school friend groups were based on my creative/performance career - this is slightly different than a 'job' in that in rehearsals, et al you are accessing/expressing more aspects of your personality than you normally would 'at work' and there is a vulnerability at play that naturally lead to a supportive environment
and while it's changing a bit, i think most boys/men are still discouraged from being vulnerable and it's just hard to connect with someone if much of your energy is spent being guarded
- also, trying to think on this now, i can't think of how many positive adult male friendships i've seen in popular media??
- 'going out' for me was almost always being in a guy friend group as a way to meet girls (it wasn't necessarily the stated purpose, but that seemed the ostensible reason - and even to this day, the idea of going out with guy friends seems a prelue to something else)

random thoughts