Catholic Church Scandal!

I'm not good at expressing myself but here goes, I come from a very devout Catholic background. The people who influenced me were my mother, grandmothers and aunts and also their husbands who devoted themselves to believing that church life was essential to raising a family, the men kept their faith or lack of to themselves but participated in church matters.
I can honestly say that after 10 years of Catholic schools and mass every Sunday, maybe 2 priests and 1 nun showed me what truly good people look like. To me the truly good people were my family members who made it their business to be God's right hand and spent their time doing for others. They never gossipped or spoke badly (out loud) about others. This is the thing I struggle with, in this day and age and particularly with this subject, how do you not judge the bad guy?
We were taught and I believe that we are not to hold each other in judgement.
I don't know how nor am I a strong enough person to judge not.
Why did it come easier for the people who came before me?
I thought you expressed yourself extraordinarily well.

I didn't come from a Catholic background. But my sense over the years is that priests and also nuns are very much revered. That if little Jimmy came home and said, Mom, Father Smith is messing with me, little Jimmy would not be believed. In fact, little Jimmy would have been admonished and/or punished by mom and dad for lying about Father Smith.

I was raised "in the church". That is, it was important to my mother that we attend church. But none of her child rearing was ever abdicated to, say, the pastor or junior pastor or youth minister and the like. Now, if ever I had come to her and said, Mom, Pastor Smith is messing with me, I don't know what she would have done. At least I feel like while it would have been a complete mind torque for her, my mom would have had MY back rather than believe in ANY adult over me. That is a night and day difference from how all those little Jimmys who DID tell someone about Father Smith and were not only not believed but told they were liars by the church. My parents never let me down. It's why I still wear my mom's ashes around my neck and my dad's class ring on my finger whenever I leave the house.