I always have to be careful because people like to claim you're "victim shaming" when you dare to speak to the relationship mistakes of the young. She was def. a little OCD by wanting things just so and got frustrated and it manifested by lashing out but by no means was that a violent or controlling act. But mostly, as a young woman, she was confused by what love is and this relationship should have been a life lesson in toxic people that she moved on from.