I am not Catholic and I have come to my current outlook through no particular trauma (other than reading these horrific stories), but I have finally accepted that I DON'T [edit] need to attend to brick and mortar church filled with mortals to have a relationship with God. God didn't do these things, people did (or satan, if you will). My mom stressed GOING to church but she always had a purpose (the choir) other than simply sitting in the pews and attending so I am just going to hope she's forgiven me for my decision.