Israel (now broader Mid East discussion)
No, it's not. You want to make it different based on your feelings. You're introducing your own ideology. You want killing civilains to be okay in one place but not the other. The truth is far simpler. It's not ok in either.
My feelings?
It is obviously not the same scenario:
Israel, a country whose every citizen lives by "Never Again", is attacked by Hamas, who targets men, women, and children. Israel retaliates. Hamas uses their own citizens as human shields and photo-ops.
U.S. gets involved on UKR-Russia conflict.
How are they possibly equal scenarios?
And no, it is not my ideology that it is ok to kill civilians in one place or another, or to even kill civilians. Talk about projecting feelings.
But, in any war ever, civilians, men, women, children, they have always died or suffered the consequences of the conflict. That's one of the reasons William Tecumseh Sherman said "war is hell". It'd be swell if no civilians would die in war, and that armies could pinpoint the other armies' regulars, or even better cowards didn't use their own people as human shields, but that's not going to happen any time soon.
The conflict in the M.E. has a long history. I don't really know who's right or who's wrong, but frankly, all things considered, I think the world is a better place with Jews than Muslim zealots.