Trans athletes make great gains, yet resentment still flares

this all brings to mind an ongoing conversation i've been having with my family - the difference between deserving and earning
like, as much as most any other family we deserve to have a house of our own. but we have not earned enough to get a house
and while everyone understands most of what is unfair about the system - the awareness of the fairness/unfairness of the system won't earn us a house

i also remember early in the marriage when we would go to some of those workshops about qualifying for loans for people with low incomes (looking back i think this might have been part of the sub-prime debacle), but we made too much money to qualify
while disappointed, i did understand that being mad at or jealous of the low income who did qualify was not the right (or helpful) thing to do