I played ball for a LOT of different coaching types and the idea that a coach HAS to be a hard arse for there to be accountability is completely ridiculous.
It's like y'all never watched Ted Lasso.
Tony Dungy was very similar to Dennis Allen with his temperament. Tom Landry was also known for being stoic on the sidelines, Marv Levy, I could go on, but mostly it makes me sad for y'all youth sports experiences.