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Taurus said

I may be in a similar situation soon. If you don't mind my asking, how long did you wait before dating? Clearly I can't put my life on hold while my spouse figures herself out, but we're also still married which makes it not seem right somehow.

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Once someone moves out, as long as you're in agreement with your estranged spouse, you can date though you may wish to be careful if you have children and custody involved. We've been apart for 3 years and it was about 6 months before I dipped my toe in the dating pool. My ex and I agreed it was fine to see others, but if either became involved in a more serious relationship, to have a discussion with the other as this is a small town and people love to talk.

You also may want to check on state-specific laws regarding separation. Maryland does not recognize legal separation, and you must be apart for 6 months. Weirdly, you can live in the same house and be "separated" as long as you pursue separate lives, which pretty much sums up the last 5 years of my marriage :hihi:

When Melissa and I went out Saturday, we each bumped into other folks we knew socially, so I may need to tell my ex. The others I dated weren't local.

At his early stage, I'm hoping this relationship has legs. I'm interested :)

Good luck to you!