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I will attempt to answer and I suppose be judged as well. How do I know? My son in law is black and I treat him the same as any of my other children. I look forward to being with him when we do things together etc. when we see each other we hug, kiss on the cheek etc.

I will also add because of my behavior in my youth. I was a racist. I used to say I wasn’t because I wasn’t the kind of person that called names, or things like that but I feel I did judge people unfairly. I recognize that behavior, I have changed that behavior and I did it on my own.

When a friend of mine laughed and started messing with me about 9 years ago because my daughter was dating a black guy I defended them and dropped out of his life when he didn’t want to stop.

I think ultimately it’s because I can look in the mirror and acknowledge I am a different person than I was before.

i appreciate you sharing all of that - and i value what you say
for me 'not racist' is not a destination but a process - in a way like how people talk about marriage being work
a guy declaring "I'm a good husband" seems a bit suspect bc he's only part of the equation - and I would infer that him saying 'i'm a good husband' is actually a bit suspect - him saying "I try to be a good husband" seems a more apt framing

most of the board knows my wife is AA and therefore my kids are - and I would never declare myself 'not racist' and I can't imagine how hard she would roll her eyes (at best) if I ever did say something like that
but I continually run up against (usually small) prejudices here and there that I must acknowledge and need to work on
I don't think i'm bigoted, but I certainly have prejudices