weirdly I 'just' had this interaction with my wife - our oldest had overslept (by 45 minutes) a voice lesson this morning. I'd been reaching out about an hour before his lesson. My wife cancelled the lesson
when he finally wakes up, he calls her upset even though she's in Denver at a conference
she calls me up sad bc she's internalizing his anger (obviously he's projecting his frustration with himself and his not being responsible)
he doesn't call me even though i'm the one who'd'll be taking him bc he knows i won't let him target his anger at ma and will remind him of all the chances he had to get it right
and he's mostly a good kid - just a 16 yr old boy only just learning to develop his social skills (and his mother and I probably did not hold him to account as much as we could have)