Why do some men behave badly?

weirdly I 'just' had this interaction with my wife - our oldest had overslept (by 45 minutes) a voice lesson this morning. I'd been reaching out about an hour before his lesson. My wife cancelled the lesson
when he finally wakes up, he calls her upset even though she's in Denver at a conference
she calls me up sad bc she's internalizing his anger (obviously he's projecting his frustration with himself and his not being responsible)
he doesn't call me even though i'm the one who'd'll be taking him bc he knows i won't let him target his anger at ma and will remind him of all the chances he had to get it right

and he's mostly a good kid - just a 16 yr old boy only just learning to develop his social skills (and his mother and I probably did not hold him to account as much as we could have)

I hear you, my oldest is a bizarre mix of genuinely gentle (he is very, very good with kids and kids with disabilities, as he grew up with one next door), and at times (not all times) toxically masculine, his views on women are not ones I generally share and he has at least a few friends I would describe as worse....men (much like women) are complicated....
Haha, my favorite radio station (the Penguin 98.3) out of Wilmington NC....you can download their app and stream it, if you like blues/gospel/bluegrass/rock mix type stuff.....

For those bringing women into the conversation, I don't disagree that power corrupts regardless of the sex and some do indeed behave badly but would suggest starting another thread about women