Kids leaving the nest...

Honest question. When you say as soon as possible, I'm inclined to think the 19 year old would be gone then. Is it just not possible for them right now?

He's in college -- so he's "gone" but not really. He came home last summer but he's looking for summer interships this year. And I'm still paying for everything. I'll consider him gone when he lives elsewhere full time and I'm not paying for him to stay alive.