my 21 yr old has a serious BF, they speaking of engagement :sick: and doing what 21 yr olds who are looking at the future do, talking about moving in, home/life etc. They have some lofty ideas. I had to recently explain the difference between goals and expectations. Two TOTALLY different things. Her BF is starting to feel pressure about being able to "support" them upon graduation, unsure of himself and what he plans on doing. As i explained ( and will continue to explain ), you dont need to "arrive" at 24 yrs old.