clearing the deck - the marriage status thread

I know a handful of people both men & women (in their late 40’s/early 50’s) who are recently divorced (like within the last 2 years) after decades of marriage. Every single one of them immediately set out to fork a bunch of people and/or jump immediately into a new serious relationship/force a serious relationship with the first willing victim.

All nice people but man are they so lost. Not a single one has taken the time to be single and really just focus on who they are as a single person, what they actually like to do, etc. They cannot be alone. Everything they do is motivated by finding someone of the opposite sex. It’s really tragic to watch grown arsed people behave the way they do.

Sorry to hear about your marriage, Guido.
This very much this.

I never took the time to explore because I was afraid of being alone. The most important relationship we have is with ourselves. We're taught it's all about someone else and get crushed when\if we learn opposite.