clearing the deck - the marriage status thread

CapitalCitySaint said

I know a handful of people both men & women (in their late 40’s/early 50’s) who are recently divorced (like within the last 2 years) after decades of marriage. Every single one of them immediately set out to fork a bunch of people and/or jump immediately into a new serious relationship/force a serious relationship with the first willing victim.

All nice people but man are they so lost. Not a single one has taken the time to be single and really just focus on who they are as a single person, what they actually like to do, etc. They cannot be alone. Everything they do is motivated by finding someone of the opposite sex. It’s really tragic to watch grown arsed people behave the way they do.

Sorry to hear about your marriage, Guido.

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I have a cousin that is like this. She's speedrun 3 marriages by her early 40's, and that's not even counting the live in boyfriends that each lasted for a couple of years and then ended disastrously. She is utterly terrified of being alone and will hook up with anything that gives her the time of day because of it. Then it inevitably ends in disaster and she repeats the same mistakes all over again.

This is so alien to me, but I'm maybe the opposite end of the spectrum where I'm perhaps too comfortable being alone. For most of my life it hasn't exactly been by choice (I am most certainly no catch and of limited social value. Sometimes you just lose the genetic lottery.), but it's such a core part of who I am now that I don't know if I could ever live any other way.