clearing the deck - the marriage status thread

Sun Wukong said

This is so alien to me, but I'm maybe the opposite end of the spectrum where I'm perhaps too comfortable being alone. For most of my life it hasn't exactly been by choice (I am most certainly no catch and of limited social value. Sometimes you just lose the genetic lottery.), but it's such a core part of who I am now that I don't know if I could ever live any other way.

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I meant to address this earlier. I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with being comfortable being alone, and I wish more people would find that comfort. But I wanted to push back on you being of limited social value. I'm not entirely sure what context you meant that - but it struck me the way I see some people talking about "high value males" etc. Which I think is bullshirt.

First, I really enjoy reading your posts on this board, and find that you add definite value to this part of society. I believe you're also a teacher, and your overall posts makes me believe you are probably a considerate teacher who is helping his students become better versions of themselves, which is of tremendous social value.

I hope I'm not overstepping, and I don't want to diminish the reality that some people do have a harder time finding companionship, and that society does value certain things over others. But it's a big world, and there are tons of butt crevasses out there that make the world worse, and I don't think you are one of those - which already puts you in the "adding value to the world" in my camp.