Problem being we just had a discussion less than 24 hours prior about how much I hated the holidays, and my reasons why (a ton of personal setbacks in Nov/Dec) and she said she really wanted to make these holidays special. That night I opened up about one last thing and she ended the relationship-with a text. We did talk at length the following day. I assured her it was now over, period, and advised her to behave like an adult in her next relationship.
Point of order-she was in a 20-year verbally and physically abusive marriage for which she never sought adequate counseling. My last bit of advice to her was to get counseling for her sake and the sake of her 3 children aged 16-21. A friend of mine who is a counselor said her behavior was unfortunately textbook for victims of abusive marriages. Reach a certain point in the relationship, get scared by the emotions they feel, then end the relationship on any pretense at all.