No m’am. At my big age, I will not be sticking around to fix anybody or wait for them to deal with things that should have been resolved before meeting me. I know healing is a life-long journey and that I get but certain things need to be dealt with before moving on.
I get told by my friends that I am too picky. My response is that I am not ugly, I have a nice career and make good enough money to comfortably support myself, get myself most of the things I want, take myself on several nice vacations every year, etc.
I've done the work. I've done therapy in various forms. I've spent years alone and not even dating/fwb with anyone at various periods in my life. I very much know who I am and what I am looking for in a partner - and my reasons for partnership are no longer centered around some of the more superficial reasons for partnership I was seeking in my late 20's/early-mid 30's.
Most of the people I know who are married settled; mostly *I think* due to superficial things - inability to be alone, societal/familial pressures to be married, subsidizing bills or being taken care of financially, urgency to have kids, etc. They have tolerated a lot of really bad stuff (the list of things is really long & not pertinent to my point) and experience other significant imbalances in their marriage and are really unhappy. Fortunately my best friend of 20 years has a really wonderful marriage between two very committed and practical people and has served as my north star for what I am seeking - and if it isn't that, I don't want it.
I also was listening to a podcast last year where the host was interviewing this behavioral scientist. I can't remember who but he was talking about how dating apps have impacted dating, expectations, etc (people thinking they have endless options and then nothing is ever good enough). He cited a study where employers are looking for a new employee, if they have a stack of resumes of say 100, they get through about 30 resumes before they decide to pick the best out of those 30 candidates.
So the template for dating he laid out was to take your dating history, reflect on your past relationships, identifying the partner who exhibited the most positive qualities & characteristics that best aligned with what you want in a long-term partner and then actively seek someone who shares those traits to build a new relationship upon.
If you have no dating history, you probably should do some of that before settling down. Especially if you married very young.