I'm another one that could tell -- before married -- within a date or two that, yeah, I'm checking out if I heard something I wasn't down for. I was never a "fixer" in romantic relationships like many women are. I always wondered whether that meant I was "too picky", but I'm positive at this point that it meant I dodged some bullets. And, frankly, when I hear a woman say something like, Oh, he never treated me good from the get go, I wonder why they weren't more picky.