clearing the deck - the marriage status thread

UncleTrvlingJim said

Deciding not date someone is not the same thing as belittling, denigrating, degrading, etc someone. Especially after only 2 dates. That is very much in the getting to know you phase... and at the point, you can decide not to date anyone for any reason at all, superficial or otherwise.

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while undoubtedly true, it does remind me of what I wrote about being in grad school and having an open LDR
I felt that as long as I was honest with potential paramours then I was being responsible
but my actions had consequences that spread wider than the little safety net i'd built for myself

sure you can break up with anyone for any reason and don't really need to provide any explanation, but some consideration should be paid to potential effect
doesn't mean you should change your actions, but acknowledge your actions effect more than just yourself

TBC, I'm not saying CCS did this in the slightest - her text to the guy carried more communication about wants than my wife has been able to provide in the last few years (and I admittedly swallowed a lot just to avoid potential fights)