I wish I had something useful to add. I really haven't tried overly much to reenter the dating scene since losing my wife back in '22 (to cancer). A brief foray did end with "not wanting to be someone's second choice". Not sure what I did to trigger it but at the same time, if that's their perception, valid enough for me. I think Widowhood can be a pretty sensitive situation for both parties. Best of luck. I think, "Happiness is reality minus expectations" is a great mantra for this...or any endeavor, really.