I was maybe 10 years old and ‘50 ways to leave your lover’ came on the radio
Dad - sorta under his breath but loud enough to hear - so the song was BS that you couldn’t just do that
My 10 yr old brain is still processing what was said and left unsaid
My dad was a WWII veteran and of the "tough guy" mindset. Life was hard and so you gritted your teeth and got through it. This took a toll on him, and by extension us as well.
What I learned from my dad in this regard is that many times being tough is both asking for help, and accepting help when it is offered, as well as being open to suggestions that aren't your own