I’ve been avoiding this thread since I already have a public life and can keep little private but fork it.
I was in a long relationship, 23 years and have two kids. My significant other lost her mother to suicide 8 years ago snd she spiraled into deep depression and refused to get help. The last 4 years have been brutal and I hung around in basically a roommate situation out of convenience since I’m rarely home and we have kids. I moved out to a sheetty apartment a few months ago and had pretty much decided to be single forever and however I liked.
Fast forward to the beginning of November I flew to Asia for a typhoon and while there decided to hop to a few countries while the weather was slow. In Thailand I met a woman on the second day. Completely organic, chance meeting, she speaks decent English and we start chatting.
The conversation was intense despite the subject being random chit chat. I asked her to dinner, was clear I was just going to be there a few days and outside of having some fun had no intention.
This woman shows up at my hotel that night dressed out, smoking hot while just being so relaxed and funny it was hard not to really enjoy. We had a great night. The next day I had to work and we texted a few times. I showed interest and wanted to see her again but that day was terrible. She kind of got generic at that point and it carried into the next day. Then she sends sends me a text “if you want to see me, just text me and I’ll come to you”. I replied I want to see you, come to me. Two hours later she showed up and took me to some temples, hit some street food, had a couple beers and just everything was lined up. We spent the next 48 hours together. I’ve never experienced anything like this girl. She is checking every box and then some. Our conversations had gotten deep and we really got to know each other fast.
At this point I had to see if something was there. Asked her to go to Bangkok with me for 2 days before I flew out. We drove the 4 hours and changed the scene completely and the energy was the same no matter the situation. Malls, rooftop bars, restaurants, walking the streets, movie theater, hotel room, did not matter. I told her if she wanted to hop a flight to Chiang Mai with me I would push my trip home a week. She did. Once again changed the scene completely. Hit festivals, a candlelight dinner, jumped into the mountains, etc. Drunk, sober and she even wanted to try weed so we got high. Nothing changed.
When it was time to fly home, she told me that she didnt think I would come back to see her. She said she would wait 90 days for me to come back but wasnt going to waste her time in a relationship of maybe. At this point I could bail and forever remember the two weeks or commit. I felt if I did not at least try that I would wake up with what if questions every day forever.
13 days later I met her in Japan, we jumped off to Vietnam and everything was like we had never left. Since then I’ve gone back one more time and even met her family. I’ve never had a woman treat me like this. Never an argument, always sweet and thoughtful. Constantly makes me laugh and supports me when I was up all night working. Of course I treat her like a queen.
Background on her.
35, never married. Has a 10 year old son with a father that bailed before birth.
She has worked quite a few jobs in hospitality (airport, hotels, etc). No debt, some savings, owns some land. No desire to live in US permanently. Wants to build a house near her parents farm and store then makes sure her son gets the best opportunity possible. She hasnt been in a relationship for 10 years. Doesn’t drink, smoke, gamble, etc.
I’m flying her to Panama and will basically go live there for a month or two so time zone and proximity to US makes it easier for me to work.
She quit her job and starts nursing school in March on my suggestion. Plan is to get work visa and spend 6 months in US to make sure she likes it. Then we would spit time.
It feels crazy. I know Thailand is known for women that game western men. It is also known for western men and Thai women having amazing relationships.
I’ve put her in every situation possible to see if I was missing something. I wasnt looking for this. It happened and happened fast. Now we have to pump the brakes some while she gets nursing certificate and starts visa process. If I’m crazy, feel free to tell me.