Dating

I can appreciate that, but i think ur POV is more an indictment of the institution of marriage than anything else .. i wont say ill *never* marry again, but i hope to avoid it in the future .. with my ex we were together off and on for 14 yrs, but once we got married it died after 3.5 yrs…. I see nothing wrong with the ‘honeymoon phase’ lasting for as long as one can possibly stretch it.. that said, my ex and i, for the decade or so that preceded our marriage, we bought a home together, lived together , adopted dogs together and on and on.. definitely not all honeymoon, but to me it was a nice sweet spot since every day, either she or I reserved the right to wake up any morning and declare that we did not want to be there… there was no piece of paper forcing us to “stick it out”… no religious component since we are both agnostic.. no getting the government involved in our relationship/love life… UNTIL we made the mistake of getting married .
I’ve never been married and completely agree. The problem I do see on the horizon is the government requiring us to get married to be together in the US. That is a bridge I dont have to cross for a long time and I’ll have prenups from here to Hong Kong if that would take place.

This is also where this thread intersects with the retiring abroad thread.