Besides an open mind, we need to keep an eye on facts.
What 7-8 nations joined NATO in 2004 that are right at Russia's border? I can only count 6 countries bordering Russia, and 2 of them are Belarus and Ukraine. The other 4 countries are Norway (member since 1949), Finland (joined in 2023 after Russia invaded Ukraine), plus Latvia and Estonia, who indeed joined in 2004. And remember why they joined NATO? Because they were afraid Russia wanted to reclaim them.
Russia and the U.S. were never in what you'd call a "good" or "decent" relation. You don't point hundreds of nuclear war heads at each other and have a "decent" relation, unless not being openly hostile is how "decent relation" is defined. After Russia lost the ability to keep up with the arms race, things still happened in the background, like espionage, proxy wars...