Divorce Question (1 Viewer)

[noxid13]

we have split costs of our son down the middle since the day i moved out.....she is not a vindictive person at all and she actually makes more money than i do anyway.....we have settled the "child support" issue

Not sure of your dating status now, but just to think ahead, she might hate the girl you eventually get with and want to make her/you miserable. You never know with women :dunno:

 

[antipop]

Not sure of your dating status now, but just to think ahead, she might hate the girl you eventually get with and want to make her/you miserable. You never know with women :dunno:

actually, she has met my GF and approves....my GF made me a calendar of pictures of me and my son, and she had to secretly get some of the pics from my ex.....so there is no big deal there

 

[Sandman]

we have split costs of our son down the middle since the day i moved out.....she is not a vindictive person at all and she actually makes more money than i do anyway.....we have settled the "child support" issue

It doesn't always stay that way. She may not be vindictive now, but there may be a day when she decides that she should be entitled to more. Who will determine domicile of the child? What if one of the two of you move? What will be the child custody arrangement then? Will that affect child support? If you are counting on her to continue being agreeable when it will take her child away from her for a while, you are in for a surprise. Are you sure that you are filing the divorce decree in the proper Parish/County? Have all waiting periods passed since the filing of the decree? Do you have proof that she was "served" with the petition or an acceptable waiver of service on file? (this may not even be allowed in Louisiana--I don't know). There are a lot little pitfalls that can turn your agreed divorce into an unenforceable scrap of paper.

 

[Beast]

Yep..

I went through a similar situation myself, though it was a bit cleaner without a child involved.. We had agreed to go our separate ways and were separated for 2.5 years before we actually finalized the divorce.. All of her family and friends were in her ear trying to get her to go after the house or some money or whatever, but she stuck with what we had decided upon..

I took the initiative and got a lawyer to draw up some papers.. All she had to do was put her name on the line..

Funny thing happened too.. The papers were finalized 4 years to the day after we were married.. Totally unplanned..

 

[Saintlady]

Does the "consent divorce" require a lawyer?

 

[Hoyasaint]

For about a hour or so of your time and a couple hundred bucks everything will be filed and done with never to bother you again if you go see a lawyer, seeing as how everything is agreed upon and done with.

 

[CoolBrees1]

ANTIPOP...look at it this way...you've consentually agreed with your ex on the important matters....and if you two can continue to talk about other matters as they come up with respect for one another and come to agreements...then continue on the course your on....once things started getting heated and you've both come to wits end on matters...then that will be the sign to go see a lawyer on both of you alls behalf...sorry it had to come to that [divorce]...but if some how...some way things work out...don't burn bridges until you really have to...

 

[antipop]

For about a hour or so of your time and a couple hundred bucks everything will be filed and done with never to bother you again if you go see a lawyer, seeing as how everything is agreed upon and done with.

yeah....i think not having to deal with the hassle is worth the few extra bucks.....now, if i can just come up with the money

should i start a thread??

 

[Joe OKC]

You'd think that with as many lawyers as we have on here, somebody would help antipop out.

Whatever you do antipop, just do it and get it done. No matter how much it costs, or even if you have to work a deal with a lawyer, or sell your soul to the debil, [pay a lawyer, same differeence] either way, just get it done.

And then you make damn good and sure that you get a copy of the divorce decree, and keep it where you keep the titles to your car, deeds, birth certificate, etc...

Joe

 

[covingtondog]

yeah....i think not having to deal with the hassle is worth the few extra bucks.....now, if i can just come up with the money

should i start a thread??

Yes, fleur de pop, you should start a thread. I'm not giving you a damn penny though because if I stay with mine you should have stayed with yours.

My best advice...if she has ever lied to you, even once, then she's a liar and cannot be trusted. You should make your decisions with that in mind. You know what esle you should do, but if you haven't done that already then she probably won't let you at this point.

 

[antipop]

if I stay with mine you should have stayed with yours..

be miserable on your own.....

 

[Thorin]

I know this may be a bad time right now, but you owe me $32000 in legal fees.

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[ra]

My advice on this type of stuff is always the same. You will probably spend less if you get a lawyer to make sure it is done right the first time than you will spend later on trying to correct things that might have been done wrong. "Corrections" always cost more in the end.

/lawyer

 

[Hoyasaint]

yeah....i think not having to deal with the hassle is worth the few extra bucks.....now, if i can just come up with the money

should i start a thread??

You could always go to a local legal clinic. From what you say it seems to be a simple enough case for them to handle, assuming you meet their requirements/threshholds

 

[Eeyore]

The answer to all of your problems... http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080213/ap_on_fe_st/odd_valentine_s_divorce