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So, the problem with when and how do we get rights is it is philosophical in nature and not "scientific". It could be because we are created beings from a higher power with some sort of intrinsic value (a religious/Kantian view), or it's because it's an evolutionary concept we came up with to ensure the best survival of the species, or probably hundreds of other reasons/value systems. I don't think it's easy.
Where I've come down on this - I am generally a Kantian/religious type person. So, rights come down to each human being is intrinsically worthy of respect, regardless of what they've done for me or anyone else. But when does that divine spark invest in someone? Is it at conception? Is part of it in the sperm and other part in the egg and it combines to form a soul? Is it at sentience? Is it at first breath (as in Jewish philosophy)? I don't know. I do believe women have this divine spark (for lack of a better term) and are therefore worthy of respect and rights though. So I have one entity that I firmly believe have rights, and another entity I'm not sure does or does not. The idea of treating a fetus as a human soul is not universally accepted by any religion. So, from that perspective, it seems safer to side with the rights of the person I am sure has rights versus one I'm not sure of.
This seems unsatisfactory of course, so I go a bit further. If the fetus is in fact imbued with a soul and so on, and if s/he is aborted, then in my philosophy, they've lived a blameless life and go to heaven. Doesn't sound terrible to me. If they aren't, then there is no harm.
Which goes to my next point. Outside of religion, why is death a tragedy? From my understanding, my death would be sad because I am a sentient being that enjoys my life and I wish to keep living so it has value to me and I want to keep it, and it would also be sad because people who love me would miss me. A fetus is most certainly not a sentient being with fears and hopes and dreams yet, so it would not lose anything because it does not have it yet. And if the mother aborts the fetus, it's safe to say that the death of the fetus is not creating a sense of loss in those who knew and loved it (since no one has actually met the fetus).
It's also why miscarriages are sad, but abortions are not - a miscarriage represents the loss of hopes and dreams of the parent.
So, yes, in general abortions make me uncomfortable, but I'd rather address it by making birth control abundantly available and free, high quality sex education widely abundant, more generous maternity leave policies (like 3 months before due date to at least a year after), tax payer supported child care and preschool, and other anti-poverty measures. That would be a more pro-life society than taking away sovereignty from another sentient being.
My wife lost a son to cancer when he was 3. She lost another son to a motorcycle accident when he was 25. If given the choice she would die for an unborn child. It is a discussion we had once while watching House I believe. That would have been her choice. I can’t imagine being in a situation like that. And no disrespect taken.@Semper -
I don’t mean this disrespectfully.
But it is so easy to say you would give your life for your unborn child when your actual life isn’t on the line. I mean real easy,
After the kid is here, I get it. I have two and I would make that choice for them without thinking twice
But go back in time 14 years ago and my wife had already had one ectopic that almost killed her. Embryo attached to the Fallopian tube and ruptured. But it grew for 8 weeks first before the tube literally exploded.
I didn’t know my children yet. My oldest was still two years away.
If we would have been faced with her or life or that of an entity which is not viable, and won’t be without my wife dying?
I have no idea what I would think tbh.
I already had to sit for hours while they removed her exploded tube and an ovary hoping she wouldn’t bleed out. I know I wasn’t thinking about the 8 week old embryo that almost made me a widower.