Political Divide Splits Relationships&Families This Holiday Season (1 Viewer)

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This election divided many relationships and families.

http://www.nytimes.com/2016/11/16/u...-relationships-and-thanksgiving-too.html?_r=0

The election is over, but the repercussions in people’s lives may be just beginning as families across the United States contemplate uncomfortable holidays — or decide to bypass them — and relationships among friends, relatives and spouses are tested across the political divide.

Democrats have dug in their heels, and in some cases are refusing to sit across the table from relatives who voted for President-elect Donald J. Trump, a man they say stands for things they abhor. Many who voted for Mr. Trump say it is the liberals who are to blame for discord, unfairly tarring them with the odious label of “racist” just because they voted for someone else.

“It’s all one big giant contradiction in my eyes,” said Laura Smith, 30, a small-business owner in Massachusetts who was attacked on Facebook by a relative for voting for Mr. Trump. “She’s saying to spread the love,” Ms. Smith said. “But then you’re throwing this feeling of hate toward me, your own family member.”

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Many Democrats harbor their own feelings of being under siege.

“It felt like a rejection of everyone who looks like me,” said Ms. Dorancy, 29, a naturalized American who immigrated from Ghana about a decade ago. “It was a message to me that ‘You are not equal in our eyes. You do not deserve a place in our country.’”

So she and her fiancé looked at their guest list and decided to hold their wedding in Italy, a distance too far for the relatives to travel. “I just don’t want them around me on the most important day of my life,” she said.

Some relationships remain intact, of course.

Kate Kingery, a Republican in Denver who sells sporting goods, has kept good relations with her Democratic friends, despite their despondence over the election. One is coming to spend a few days in the mountains with her this week. Ms. Kingery, who grew up on a farm in rural Minnesota, said she sympathized with her Democratic friends’ worries.

This country has a lot of healing to do. Trump divided people and now he must bring the country back together.
 

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I'm thankful my family is all on the same page, even my dad who voted democrat for the first time in his life
 

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mais, racist family members did that long before Trump arrived.
 

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i'm going with "dad, why don't you just kick your grandsons? they'll recover from that faster than from your vote"
then i'm going to have my kids start packing and singing repatriation songs in spanish

i'm thinking in between apps and turkey - what do y'all think?
 

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Yeah, there may be a small percent of families where it pushes things over the line, but families that used to fight or families that used to have one half just nod and go "yeah, can't trust them Jews" or "Sure, welfare helps people" are still going to do what they always do. It's the same gathering of enforced association that is blood family.
 

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Glad I'm only seeing the in-laws this year, politics is a forbidden topic there and anybody who brings it up has to eat outside. And it's cooooooold in northern Illinois this time of year.

I couldn't deal with peeps on my mom's side of the family, it would be way too awkward. Fortunately we live 1000 miles away, so good excuse to not visit.
 

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People have been dealing with stupid racist dumb**** family members forever. So it's nothing new.
 

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Is it wrong to troll my 97 year old grandmother at Thanksgiving dinner?
 

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Well, yeah.
 

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i'm going with "dad, why don't you just kick your grandsons? they'll recover from that faster than from your vote"
then i'm going to have my kids start packing and singing repatriation songs in spanish

i'm thinking in between apps and turkey - what do y'all think?
I think im celebrating Festivus this year.

and my gift to inlaws is generous donation in thier name to "The Human Fund"
 

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i'm going with "dad, why don't you just kick your grandsons? they'll recover from that faster than from your vote"
then i'm going to have my kids start packing and singing repatriation songs in spanish

i'm thinking in between apps and turkey - what do y'all think?
Make sure to take the pumpkin pie to stick it to him
 

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Avoid talking politics. If the issue comes up, try to steer the conversation in a different direction. If you are not a hard-core Republicans and live in the South, you should have experience with changing the subject when certain people want to talk politics.
 

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But I thought that Obama had divided the nation, at least that was what the Trump drones were croaking all during this election...
We dont talk politics during family events. That's like talking potholes or clouds. No Point
 

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Avoid talking politics. If the issue comes up, try to steer the conversation in a different direction. If you are not a hard-core Republicans and live in the South, you should have experience with changing the subject when certain people want to talk politics.
"LSU shouldn't have fired Les. Coach O isn't doing any better."
 

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