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Anyone have experience with this?
My situtation is as follows. I am engaged to a wonderful woman. She has a 12 year old child from her previous marriage. Who doesn't have a kid from a previous relationship these days, so that in of itself is no big deal. Well, once my girl and I decided we were going to get married at some point she asked me if I would help her child with his slumping grades, so I did. Her son has been raised by his mother and is kind of sensitive. I as a veteran of our Armed Forces, can be very loud and confrontational, so I have to get up close and personal when the young man decides he is not going to do assigned tasks. The issue I have is I feel that she undermines me alot by babying (is that a real word?) him while I am in the process of disciplining him. When he fails to accomplish tasks, I remove X Box 360 privlleges. Right now he owes me 10 weeks of X Box time for failing to take out the trash, etc. He does know that when I say 10 weeks he has 10 weeks, his mother always gives in after 2 - 3 days. However recently he has started to talk back to me (all of which is expected), but I don't feel I can punish him how I would punish my own son, who is 13. Also when he does talk back his mother thinks it is funny. I have not said anything as of yet because she is real sensitive and overprotective of the child. Anyone have any ideas?
My situtation is as follows. I am engaged to a wonderful woman. She has a 12 year old child from her previous marriage. Who doesn't have a kid from a previous relationship these days, so that in of itself is no big deal. Well, once my girl and I decided we were going to get married at some point she asked me if I would help her child with his slumping grades, so I did. Her son has been raised by his mother and is kind of sensitive. I as a veteran of our Armed Forces, can be very loud and confrontational, so I have to get up close and personal when the young man decides he is not going to do assigned tasks. The issue I have is I feel that she undermines me alot by babying (is that a real word?) him while I am in the process of disciplining him. When he fails to accomplish tasks, I remove X Box 360 privlleges. Right now he owes me 10 weeks of X Box time for failing to take out the trash, etc. He does know that when I say 10 weeks he has 10 weeks, his mother always gives in after 2 - 3 days. However recently he has started to talk back to me (all of which is expected), but I don't feel I can punish him how I would punish my own son, who is 13. Also when he does talk back his mother thinks it is funny. I have not said anything as of yet because she is real sensitive and overprotective of the child. Anyone have any ideas?