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- Jun 14, 2002
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Common theme...get in relationships we know are no good for us...then stay in them. I think as I've gotten older, I'm definitely better about ending them sooner rather than later.Are you surprised, CCS? Come on.
I married the same woman twice with the same results.
She gave me a great son, so I don't regret any of it.
But there is one that got away that I regret.
And I'm a lefty.
Yes. I know how to shut it down now.Common theme...get in relationships we know are no good for us...then stay in them. I think as I've gotten older, I'm definitely better about ending them sooner rather than later.
You’re burying the ledeive had several long term relationships....but only 2 really "serious" ( talked marriage ) and one of those i married. for 19 years now.
Even in high school- my first GF was from 9th-12th grade ( midway thru senior year- dumped me just before senior prom )
i never was a "dating" kind. If i met a girl i liked, and vice versa, it tended to be long term. My friends used to kid me about the one in the group that always had a long term thing ( more than a year ) out of all of us. Some of those were semi-serious. But even those, i was in my 20s, still in college, and had no IDEA what i wanted.
My last long term GF was my last year in college. She broke it off after 18 months stating she needed "more" ( by more, she meant a man with a career/steady well-paid, grounded) i was like "im 9 months away from graduation!??!?!" wasnt enough. That was a back-breaker. But i just chalked it up to the terrible endings i produced years prior. ( Karma ).
The other serious one was a gal who came from a different background - she was Middle Eastern. It was interesting because all those years, it turns out, she had picked me to be the one to "flip" her father into allowing her to be with a "western" man. And i did. And no sooner did that, she ended it. In dramatic fashion.
so only 2 really serious. The rest were long term but not overly-serious in that we spoke of a future in that sense.
I think it still blinds us in our older age but the whole "this is fun but I'm also really frustrated because all these other criteria/needs aren't being met" become as strong when you're older and realize you don't have the years to waste anymore.Yes. I know how to shut it down now.
I think sex and passion blinds you when you are younger. But maybe that's a man thing.
I had relationship that was exciting months ago. She was younger and a nice person but I realized that it wasn't going to work.
It's hard to do that because no one wants to be alone.
But at some point, you think of you and the other person. And what's right.