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Mostly thisI don't think he's in the wrong, but those are the kinds of things you discuss before marriage, not after. They are just critical questions that can have a massive effect on a marriage. I don't understand how little effort people put into getting on the same page with someone BEFORE making a lifetime commitment to them.
I guess it just comes from the fact that many people today don't see marriage as a lifetime commitment.
I would add that maybe it’s not that people don’t see it as a lifetime commitment, it could be that ‘before people’ weren’t allowed to consider options
But yes discuss this before marriage
But actually I’m most concerned about the kids being asked to cohabited but not with actual siblings