Worst birthday ever! Advice needed! (1 Viewer)

Terrible news to hear. Your family is in my prayers.

I lost my father nearly 7 years ago. Shook his hand at work before he left for lunch and 3 hours later I was having a conversation with the coroner. I kept busy, but I was really in shock for a good month.

I agree with others that a Go Fund Me page would be appropriate considering the circumstances. I’ve lurked on this site for many years. Push comes to shove, we seem to take care of our own. Sign me up for whatever I can do to help.

My company can print the funeral cards free of charge if needed. Not a big expense, but every little bit Helps.
 
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What an awful situation, and the suddenness makes it that much more shocking I’m sure. I just donated, and your family is in my prayers. May God bless.
 
So sorry, you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. My mom died unexpectedly as well a few years ago on mother’s day of all days, can you believe that! Keep pressing, and stay strong for those little ones.
 
Andrus, I'm just seeing this and so tough to hear about the loss of Scott. I recall reading about your trip back and forth from Colorado and how they ended up back home with you. I wish I were closer to Lafayette. I would help if I could.

I find myself thinking about Sheena and her kids. Hold them and be strong for them. And take some time to grieve and reflect back on the good memories you all have had together. Build some new ones with the grandkids so that they have something to look forward to.

And if she hasn't already done so, Sheena absolutely should apply for SS benefits. We've done that off and on over the years, and we wouldn't be where we are without it. She and the kids would automatically be eligible for medical benefits as well, although she would have to apply. The process takes time, but it's well worth doing.

I wish I could contribute monetarily, but we definitely are praying for comfort for you and your family. You're like an extended part of my family and I appreciate your generosity and open arms over the years. Hang in there!

Love to your family!

Dave
 
I really don't know what to say. We love you and are here for you. Please don't hesitate to ask for what y'all may need. This is one big family and we're here to help.

My thoughts and prayers are with y'all.
 
Woe is me...……..I should practice PATIENCE!!! As soon as my card & check is done, I see your post that the fund has been set up...…..anyway, GOOD JOB in taking care of the family!


I don't think that she will care how it comes. She will simply thank you from the bottom of her heart!
 
So sorry to hear about your loss! Thoughts and prayers are with you!
 
I appreciate the information, Pastor. Not exactly what I wanted to hear, but I needed to hear it. I'll be better prepared to talk to the funeral home now. Thank you for taking the time, none the less.

Here is the problem with the pre-need policy. Insurance policies keep people broke. Danged if you do, danged if you don't, and if you really need one, they won't give it to you. No one will give me life insurance due to being a diabetic on blood pressure medicine with a bad thyroid. Been trying for 25 years. Always a no-go! So there's that.

Will see about that GoFundMe tomorrow, or should I say later today. I need to discuss it with the family. Tired, but can't sleep.
info.sciencecare.com This is where you donate your body to science they use it for medical students then return the cremation back to the family in 6months to a year there is no cost for this service it's not a great option but it is an option so very sorry for your loss God bless you, and your entire family during this time of loss.
 
Andrus, so very sorry to hear about this. Absolutely devastating. Your SR Community is here for you, we are like a big extended family here. So many people have given you great advice.

I just saw this thread because I am dealing with a major family issue of my own. My mom is dying, she was told by her doctor today. She does not have much time left and we are bringing her home for hospice care as soon as possible. She is a huge Saints fan and went to many, many games. She has not been able to go to games for many years, but she loves the Saints. I also have a niece with MS and my wife is a Type 1 Diabetic and my Dad is a Type 2. All I can say is stay strong and lean on your SR family for help.

I am a lawyer, but I am not a specialist in any of these areas, but I do know that good legal advice is crucial for you and your family regarding debts. Make sure you or your daughter don't assume debts (by starting to pay them) that are really not your responsibility. If the accounts were his actual accounts and somebody else had their name on them as a user, but not as the account holder, that is a big issue that may make the user not responsible for them. I would stress to stop using any accounts which "look" like they are joint if at all possible. So much great advice here and hopefully an SR lawyer with expertise in this area will be able to help guide you through this.

I can't imagine the sense of shock and bewilderment you are going through. I am dealing with my family issues now, but we have known for some time that this was coming eventually, just not that it was coming on us now. Please take some comfort in knowing that your SR family REALLY appreciates all that you have done to make this site one in which people co-exist and interact with decency and civility. You are a very good man, you will get through this.
 
For those of us who knows Jesus as our Lord and Savoir, scripture tell us, "He'll never leave nor forsake us", Who dat nation, ask Jesus into your heart, and confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, right now, because tomorrow isn't promise to us. My prayers are with you and your entire family, that He will give you the strength to get through this. Jesus Loves you and your family, so very much.
 
Andrus, so very sorry to hear about this. Absolutely devastating. Your SR Community is here for you, we are like a big extended family here. So many people have given you great advice.

I just saw this thread because I am dealing with a major family issue of my own. My mom is dying, she was told by her doctor today. She does not have much time left and we are bringing her home for hospice care as soon as possible. She is a huge Saints fan and went to many, many games. She has not been able to go to games for many years, but she loves the Saints. I also have a niece with MS and my wife is a Type 1 Diabetic and my Dad is a Type 2. All I can say is stay strong and lean on your SR family for help.

I am a lawyer, but I am not a specialist in any of these areas, but I do know that good legal advice is crucial for you and your family regarding debts. Make sure you or your daughter don't assume debts (by starting to pay them) that are really not your responsibility. If the accounts were his actual accounts and somebody else had their name on them as a user, but not as the account holder, that is a big issue that may make the user not responsible for them. I would stress to stop using any accounts which "look" like they are joint if at all possible. So much great advice here and hopefully an SR lawyer with expertise in this area will be able to help guide you through this.

I can't imagine the sense of shock and bewilderment you are going through. I am dealing with my family issues now, but we have known for some time that this was coming eventually, just not that it was coming on us now. Please take some comfort in knowing that your SR family REALLY appreciates all that you have done to make this site one in which people co-exist and interact with decency and civility. You are a very good man, you will get through this.

J.T., I am very sorry to hear about your mom. Seems a lot of us are going through something similar. You are a good man! I will keep you and your mom in my prayers.
 

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